Confidence


Something I’ve learned recently is that a lot of new authors lack self-confidence! Oh my goodness! Dear fellow aspiring authors: have you written a book? Have you written part of a book? Have you printed it out and held it in your hands? Do you realize that not all people can ever do that? I can’t remember all the people who’ve come up to me and said, “I wish I could write books!” or “I never could write stories.” Now, being a modest person, I smile, and tell them that I’m sure they could do it. But it is becoming clear to me that not everyone can write. we all have our talents. Some people can cook fabulous meals, some people can sew gorgeous quilts, some people know how to dance, some people are artists, some people can knit mittens and socks, some people race motorcycles, some people can ride horses, and some people are great making people happy. Whatever your talent is, you should be proud of it. And for those of us whose talent is to write, hold your heads up high! Don’t worry! If you wrote (or are writing) a book, that is awesome! Being an author means that if you’ll donate the time to your manuscript, you’ll end up with a beautiful novel. It doesn’t mater if you’re making a picture book, a child’s bedtime story, a book for teens, a YA book about vampires, a romance, or a tear-jerker: it is your talent flowing through your fingers into blank pieces of paper to create something that never existed before. You are amazing!     

Of course, there are critics out there. There are beta readers, editors, and customers who may not like your book at all. And I know bad reviews can really hurt a writer and make them question themselves, but one really great review can out-weigh all the bad ones. Trust me. It doesn’t mater what other people say. Take a look at your book. Did you put your heart into it? Did you love and hate the characters? Cry for a death? Laugh at a joke? Doesn’t that wonderful, unique, and beautiful book deserve your praise? Don’t you yourself, as the author, owe it to yourself to be proud? Sure, your book may never be accepted by an agent/editor/publisher, but in that case, you still have options. You can self-publish your book! And today, many people prefer self-publishing over traditionally publishing for various reasons. But either way, if your book is accepted or if you publish it yourself, it is still a book. You are still the author. Be happy with that knowledge, dear writers! You are great! You are doing what some people only dream of doing! You took a leap of faith and actually wrote a book! Some people will spend their whole lives wishing they had the courage to do that! So to all of you: congratulations! You did it! πŸ™‚

 

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23 thoughts on “Confidence

  1. I think writers tend to lose confidence when they start writing for other people instead of themselves but if we just try and focus on making ourselves happy first nothing we write will ever be in vain.

    • That is so true! If you start changing your manuscript for your beta readers, you are losing what you started out to do: whrire becasue it makes you happy! And as long are YOU the AUTHOR is happy with your book, just be happy and it doesn’t mater what other people have to say!

  2. I think there’s always balance. Yes, you shouldn’t blindly accept the opinions of others and change your book every time someone says something negative about it. But if a lot of people are saying the same thing, that’s usually an indication of a problem. I think people just have to realize if they’re going to write a book and they want it to be successful, it’s going to hurt a little. But you wouldn’t want people telling you that you sing well only to end up at the American Idol tryouts where Simon Cowell tells you that you’re the most awful thing he’s ever heard and he wishes he could tear his ears off. πŸ˜‰ We’ve got to know where the weak spots are. That’s where the feedback does matter. And as we gain experience we’ll know when to disregard feedback and when things need to change. Usually I figure out why the person gave me the feedback they did and change it in my own wayβ€”something I’m happy with.

    But you make a good point. A lot of people say they’re going to write a book, we’re among the few that actually do it. πŸ™‚

    • Yes, balance is key. And if you have more than one person, for example, saying that you’re switching back and forth between present and past tense, yes, you need to do some editing (sounds like I’m speaking from experience, huh? lol)
      I agree about needing feedback. It is important! But you’ve got to let harsh comments slide off your back. If you soak them in like a sponge, you’ll as soon burn your manuscript than try to send it to an agent. But I know that sharp rebuffs sting and make some authors question themselves to the point that they lose faith and just give up.
      And yes, it is your book, so you must take other’s suggestions and do with them what you will. Just as long as you are happy with your book and it is still your book.
      And congratulations to us! We are authors! So there, all you naysayers! πŸ˜‰

  3. Thank you so much for this post. I have just self published my first book and am struggling with the whole marketing thing now – trying to get more than half a dozen people to buy it! I am getting feedback from as many people as I can and sometimes it’s hard to take that on board, but your post is brilliant and has reminded me that regardless of what happens, I am an author, and that’s something that no everyone can say! Thanks so much! πŸ™‚

      • Thank you so much! I am at the moment trying to format for Smashwords which is a whole different experience to formatting for Amazon.!! Hopefully at some point it will all come together. Will check out the link – much appreciated. πŸ™‚

    • It was my pleasure! And let me tell you, formatting for Smashwords is incredibly difficult. You really do need to read their guidelines, resize your cover, take out the table of contents, and make sure you don’t use the Enter or Tab key.
      I was wondering, would you like to participate in my author interview program?

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